Dear Friends,
Switching of the purple bracelet - 5 times! Not my fault - I was provoked!
Last night, instead of going out and engaging in the "inevitable," I stayed in and read a few articles about complaining and gossiping. I am very grateful for the opportunity to expand my knowledge.
Apparently there are two types of complaining; effective and ineffective.
Last night, instead of going out and engaging in the "inevitable," I stayed in and read a few articles about complaining and gossiping. I am very grateful for the opportunity to expand my knowledge.
Apparently there are two types of complaining; effective and ineffective.
Effective
complaining results in reforms that serve social justice. It creates movements
that enable “former grousers” to fight for worthy causes and become activists!
It supports our basic human rights; changes our laws and enables us to fulfil
our dreams.
“Ineffective”
complaining (what I do), obviously doesn’t serve a “higher” purpose at all! It might offer a
temporary relief of some sort to the “moaner” and to a few (polite) listeners; however
lack of resolution will eventually make the whole activity futile.
Lamenting about issues we cannot control, or do not want to change, is perceived as whining! Nobody likes whiners! If we must whine, to make ourselves feel better, we better make it snappy! We don’t want to be labelled as "boring" or "annoying!"
Lamenting about issues we cannot control, or do not want to change, is perceived as whining! Nobody likes whiners! If we must whine, to make ourselves feel better, we better make it snappy! We don’t want to be labelled as "boring" or "annoying!"
Have an effective day everyone!
Lili,
ReplyDeleteAbout 10 years ago, Joël decided that he was going to take complaining out of his life completely. He worked at it and worked at it, and I have to say he has succeeded beautifully. It has made him a happier person. Truly. No one likes a complainer. Loving what is, is such a difficult concept but one that is very effective for moving forward in one's life. I am inspired by Joël but find myself complaining still. It's a process; I'm working on it. Slowly....slowly it will get easier.